I created this blog originally three years ago to talk about our first loss. I posted again a year after my ectopic since then we have lost one more. That is four miscarriages and one ectopic. But that's not why I am writing today. I am writing for two reasons.
The first reason is to bring awareness to what October is.October is breast cancer awareness month I think almost everyone knows that but October is also Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. In 1988 Ronald Reagan Proclaimed October as National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. He said "When a child loses his parent, they are called an orphan. When a spouse loses her or his partner, they are called a widow or widower. When parents lose their child, there isn’t a word to describe them." This month recognizes the loss so many parents experience across the United States and around the world. It is also meant to inform and provide resources for parents who have lost children due to miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, molar pregnancy, stillbirths, birth defects, SIDS, and other causes. In 2002 a movement was started in the US and October 15 became Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.
Secondly I am writing to raise awareness about how pregnancy isn't a joke. Yes it is fun to trick your friends and family but joking about being pregnant when you really aren't is cruel, mean and down right rude. For many people, like me, that have either lost a child and/or pregnancy or struggling with infertility or having trouble getting pregnant seeing a pregnancy announcement makes our heart drop because we desperately want that to be us. However when we scroll and see that is a joke it's not just upsetting that we can't share that happy moment for ourselves, it has suddenly turned it to you mocking us. It is already hard enough dealing with loss and struggling to get pregnant but now we get a slap in the face because you think its funny. Please be respectable don't make fake pregnancy jokes. 
Also please do this
Lets all light a candle together to remember all those babies gone too soon.
